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What Makes Someone Cool? It's Not What You Think.

Elle Hunt recently highlighted the importance of authenticity and self-love in being cool. According to Hunt, coolness is not just about looking stylish or having a trendy persona; it's about embracing your true nature and loving what you do. This definition encompasses people from various walks of life, including musicians like Miles Davis and actress Cate Blanchett.

However, the line between coolness and style is often blurred. Style may try to emulate coolness, but style is merely an accessory to genuine coolness. Elegance, on the other hand, takes a more subtle approach – it's understated yet effortless. Monty Don's signature jacket is a perfect example of this.

Another essential quality of coolness is silence. Not just the absence of words, but the willingness to listen and observe can be incredibly cool. In fact, people who care deeply about others and speak out against injustice are often seen as cool.

But what about when coolness is misused? Destroying the planet for financial gain or promoting hatred and supremacy are not qualities of coolness at all. Love, forgiveness, and kindness – these are the values that truly embody coolness.

It's worth noting that some people may naturally exude coolness, while others can learn to adopt a cooler persona with practice. The key is to be genuine and true to oneself. As Denis Baker put it, "The coolest person ever to have existed was, of course, Miles Davis."

A survey published recently by Elle Hunt highlighted the importance of kindness in making someone cool. Robert Barnes pointed out that the study missed this crucial aspect. Meanwhile, others like Dolly Prenzel and Roshi Fernando emphasized the significance of self-love and embracing one's unique qualities.

Ultimately, what makes someone cool is not just about external appearances or trendy behaviors; it's about being true to oneself and living with integrity.
 
omg i completely agree!!! its so refreshing to see people like miles davis and cate blanchett who are unapologetically themselves πŸ’–πŸŽ¨ being celebrated for their authenticity. and i love how monty don's elegance is understated yet effortless - that's the kind of coolness i can get behind πŸ˜ŽπŸ’Ό it makes me think about what makes me feel confident and comfortable in my own skin, and its all about embracing my quirks and imperfections πŸŒΈπŸ’–
 
You know, I was reading this article about what makes someone cool and I'm like, totally reminded of the whole empathy vs. individualism debate πŸ€”. Like, when we talk about kindness and self-love being essential qualities of coolness, it's easy to get caught up in this idea that individuality is the ultimate goal. But isn't it also important to consider how our actions impact others? I mean, can we really say we're cool if we're just looking out for ourselves all the time? It seems like that's where the whole 'empathy vs. self-interest' conversation comes in 🀝. And let's be real, when it comes down to it, being cool is all about how you're willing to listen and speak up for others – even if it means ruffling a few feathers πŸ’β€β™€οΈ.
 
I don’t usually comment but I think this whole 'coolness' thing is kinda weird πŸ€”. Like, can we define it? Is it when you're wearing a sick outfit πŸ‘– or when you're actually doing good deeds in the world 🌎? I mean, I love Cate Blanchett and Miles Davis too, but how do we measure 'coolness'? Is it on a scale of 1-10, with style being one end and actual kindness being the other?

And what about people who are already cool from within? Do they need to put in effort to be themselves or is that just part of their awesomeness πŸ’β€β™€οΈ? I don't think we're taught enough about this stuff in school, you know?
 
You know what I think? Coolness isn't just about looking rad or doing sick things. It's actually about being super genuine and loving who you are... like, really loving yourself πŸ’–. And it's not just about how you present yourself, but also the way you interact with others - can be totally cool to just listen and observe, you know? 🀫 Like when someone's speaking out against injustice and stuff... that's actually really cool 😊.

But then there are people who try too hard to be cool and end up being kinda pretentious or whatever... and that's not cool at all. Destroying the planet for money or promoting hate is like, the ultimate no-go zone 🚫. For me, it's all about kindness, self-love, and just being true to yourself, you feel? πŸ’ͺ
 
idk why they're making a big deal outta this "coolness" thing anyway πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ. it's like they're trying to sell us on the idea that being genuine is some kind of superpower or something πŸ’β€β™€οΈ. and can we please stop romanticizing people who are actually doing harm? like, yeah, miles davis was a genius and all, but destroying the environment for profit isn't "cool" 🌎.

and honestly, i'm so over the term "unstated elegance". who came up with that? sounds like some fancy-pants marketing nonsense πŸ˜’. and what's with all these experts chiming in on social media? can't we just figure this out ourselves? πŸ€”
 
I think it's so refreshing to see that coolness isn't just about following the crowd. It's all about embracing your quirks and loving who you are πŸ™Œ. I mean, have you seen someone like David Bowie? He was totally a master of self-expression and still managed to be super relatable at the same time. And let's not forget about people who aren't even trying to be cool – they're just being themselves and that's what makes them awesome 😎. The more I think about it, the more I realize that coolness isn't something you can buy or learn – it's something that comes from within ❀️.
 
I think this article hits so hard 🀩, you know? I've always been fascinated by people who are unapologetically themselves, no matter how weird or different they are from the crowd. It's like, those are the people who inspire us to be more authentic and confident in our own skin πŸ’β€β™€οΈ.

And yeah, it's so true that style can try to fake coolness, but elegance is a whole different story 😎. I mean, Monty Don's jacket is literally iconic – understated yet effortless, just like he says πŸ™Œ.

But what really gets me is when people say being "cool" means speaking out against injustice or caring deeply about others πŸ’–. That's not something you can fake, and that's what makes it so cool πŸ‘. It's all about love, kindness, and living with integrity ❀️. Can't get more cool than that 🀩!
 
I'm so over this whole "coolness" thing... like, can't we just focus on being kind and genuine for once? πŸ™„ I mean, sure, embracing your true nature is important, but what if that means you're not into the latest fashion trends or popular music? Should you still be expected to pretend to be someone you're not? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ And don't even get me started on this whole "silence" thing - isn't it a bit too passive? Can't we promote active listening and open conversation instead of just being quiet? πŸ’¬ Anyway, I do love the idea that kindness and self-love are key to being cool... but can we please make sure that everyone is represented in these discussions, regardless of their background or identity? 🌈
 
I don't get why people say that only a few are "cool". I mean, isn't it about being yourself and doing stuff you love? πŸ€” Like, if you're into hiking, you're cool because you like the outdoors. Or if you're an artist, that's awesome too. It's not about dressing up in a certain way or saying the right things to people... I think it's just about finding what makes you happy and going with it. 🌞
 
You know, I think people make a big mistake when they try to emulate "coolness". It's like putting on a mask that doesn't fit – you end up looking fake! πŸ™…β€β™€οΈ For real coolness, you need to be confident in who you are and what you stand for. Like Monty Don's jacket, it's understated but effortless. And don't even get me started on the whole "cool" thing when people are hurting the planet or spreading hate... that's just not it at all πŸŒŽπŸ’”. I think we should focus on being genuine and true to ourselves, because that's what truly makes someone cool – self-love and kindness. πŸ‘
 
🚨 just read this article and I'm like, totally underwhelmed πŸ€•. Being "cool" is overrated if you ask me. What's next, telling us that kindness and self-love are the keys to success? πŸ™„ newsflash: the world needs more than just a pretty face or a nice jacket πŸ‘—πŸ’Ό. If we're gonna talk about being cool, let's at least have some hard truths πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ. Like, when's the last time you saw someone "cool" who wasn't hiding behind a mask of superficiality? πŸ˜’
 
I've been reading this thread for days lol πŸ˜‚ and I gotta say, I'm totally on the same page as everyone else! To me, coolness is all about confidence and being unapologetically yourself. Like, have you seen a pic of Lady Gaga from like 5 years ago? She's still iconic to this day because she's just so bold and fearless with her style and music 🀘.

And I love how the thread mentions silence as a quality of coolness. Sometimes the coolest people are those who aren't trying too hard, you know? They're just chillin', observing life, and being present in the moment 🌊.

But what really got me was when someone mentioned that some people can be "cooler" with practice πŸ˜‚. I mean, I've seen people totally transform their style and attitude after like 6 months or a year of making an effort. It's all about owning who you are and rocking it πŸ’β€β™€οΈ.

Anyway, thanks for starting this thread! πŸ‘
 
OMG u r totally right!!! πŸ˜‚πŸ‘ being 1st & genuine is key! i love how Elle Hunt said it's not jus abt lookin stylish but also bing urself! πŸ’– like milez davies n catherine blanchett r perfect examples of dat. n yaa, silense can b super cool too, lol wut if ppl actually lissten 2 u & car about others?? πŸ€— it's not jus bout bein loud or flashin y style but really puttin in the work 4 good!! 😊
 
I don't know, I think being cool is pretty subjective πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ... like, my friends can be super stylish but they're not always the coolest people I hang out with πŸ‘‹. For me, it's more about being down-to-earth and genuine - if you're nice to everyone and treat others how you want to be treated, that's pretty cool 😊. But at the same time, I'm sure there are some people out there who aren't super kind or understanding but still manage to come across as cool πŸ’β€β™€οΈ... like, I've seen people on social media do really silly things and still get a million likes 🀯... anyway, I think it's all about being true to yourself and doing what makes you happy 😊.
 
πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈπŸŽ© A dude can be cool even if he's wearing a ratty old hoodie and has a messy beard πŸ§”β€β™‚οΈπŸ’β€β™‚οΈ, as long as he's being genuine and kind ❀️😊. Style is just a bonus, not the real deal πŸ‘–πŸ‘
 
The whole point of being "cool" is basically a fancy way of saying be genuine and don't be a pretentious tryhard 🀣. Like, Monty Don's jacket is actually kinda cool because he doesn't need some fancy accessory to make him stand out – his effortless elegance speaks for itself. And silence isn't just about not talking, it's about being present and listening to others without interrupting (some people need a refresher on that one πŸ™„). As long as you're using your platform to spread love and kindness, I'm all in πŸ’–.
 
I think its all about finding your own rhythm in life 🎢, you know? Not trying to be like everyone else, but rather letting your quirks shine through. For me, thats what makes someone cool – their ability to be themselves, flaws and all πŸ’–. Its not always easy, trust me, I've been there πŸ˜…. But when you find that confidence and self-love, man, its infectious! You start to see the world in a different light, like everything is possible 🌈. And yeah, kindness and love are huge too ❀️. We should all strive to be those people who make a positive impact on others without needing to say a word πŸ—£οΈ.
 
I gotta say, I've been thinking this coolness thing for ages & I'm like "hold up" πŸ€” on the whole style vs authenticity vibe. Can't we have both? Like, is it really cool if someone's all fancy but also super superficial? Don't get me wrong, elegance is key, but isn't that just a fancy word for being genuine? πŸ’β€β™€οΈ And silence? Isn't that just an excuse to not speak up when you should be? I mean, if you care about others & want to make a change, shouldn't you be like "hey, this needs fixing" πŸ—£οΈ Not exactly the most chill thing in the world...
 
πŸ€“ I think this concept of coolness is really nuanced and multifaceted 🌈. While authenticity and self-love are definitely key components, I also believe that humility is often underrated as a quality of someone who embodies coolness 😊. Being able to listen without interrupting or speaking out of turn can be a powerful display of coolness in itself. And let's not forget the power of vulnerability πŸ€— - being willing to show our imperfections and weaknesses can make us way more relatable and attractive to others πŸ‘
 
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